NLP is one the most misunderstood concepts on the planet, and one of the most misused methodologies on earth.
In the last thirty years NLP got “bastardized” by people promising quick – fix techniques and snake oil, to fix all problems. These sales people sell a promise you can do magic without any effort or any deep thought.
They are selling you expensive trainings, with a promise you will get the magic wand allowing you to influence others, double your sales, provide quick-fix therapy for any problem, or just get rid of your own emotional issues instantly.
These “gurus” sell technique based NLP training, promising to give you a technique to solve any human problem on earth.
In the years I have been in this industry, I have seen countless graduates of those expensive NLP trainings, not being able to do anything with the many techniques they have memorized. They went into the world and created more harm than good. Often, their clients complained about feeling worse than they did prior to the NLP intervention these graduates offered.
In essence, the expensive trainings and empty promises have created a bad name for the most powerful methodology for human transformation, there is.
What Makes NLP Training Bad?
Before analyzing what makes NLP training good, let’s define Bad NLP. Bad NLP is a quick fix promise that is based upon techniques, without addressing the system of thinking into which these techniques need to be plugged.
Every human being is different and has a unique engine that drives their unique problem. They are no two identical people on this planet. People may show similar symptoms, but their symptoms can be driven be a whole different engine.
You can have two individuals suffering from depression, and each depression is driven by a whole different set of principles. These individuals can differ in the way they create their depression. The subconscious steps they follow to “get there” can be totally different.
A good NLP Practitioner understands these unique differences, and is able to discern what is the unique engine driving the client’s problem. A correct diagnosis of the client’s problem is a science, and requires a very sophisticated training most NLP gurus do not provide.
They base their diagnosis on the client’s diagnosis. It’s as if a doctor took a patient’s report that their problem was tuberculosis, and gave the client a certain antibiotic that wouldn’t work.
I discovered 90 percent of the time, the client’s problem is not the one they think they have,
Bad NLP Training does not include diagnostic training. Because it lacks the essential diagnostic training, it also lacks strategic intervention. There can’t be a strategy without a diagnosis.
Bad NLP training is a cookie cutter memorization of impotent techniques that become useful ONLY in the context of understanding how people think.
What is the Best NLP Training?
A good NLP training teaches the process of thinking required to reverse engineer the client’s problem, and apply this understanding into the strategy of creating change.
Once you understand the unique problem you are presented with, you are equipped to create a unique and targeted intervention strategy.
A good NLP training will teach you logic and principles upon which you can base your strategy.
You will be presented with case studies, work in groups, disassemble problems, and face your own walls.
You will be able to apply all these principles in any situation, and easily be able to help any client you come face to face with. In the context of this learning, you will also learn Ericksonian Hypnosis which is the mother framework of NLP.
In my opinion you cannot be a good NLP practitioner without a solid understanding of Ericksonian hypnosis. If they don’t teach you hypnosis, you are not learning NLP.
NLP is hypnosis.
How to Find a Good NLP Training?
Before you pay your heard earned dollars for an expensive NLP training, do your research. Ask questions.
Here are the questions to ask before paying anyone to teach you NLP:
- How long have you been teaching?
- What results have your students had?
- Do you teach hypnosis?
- Tell me about your strategy for teaching NLP
- Do you work with case studies?
- Do you see your own clients?
- What results have they had?
- Can I speak to a couple of your clients
- Can I speak to one of your students
- Do you have a follow-up?
- Why are you teaching NLP?
The answers to these questions will be a good start to decide whether to pay them to teach you.