NLP Can Help You Get Rid of Fear Fast

Excuses are nothing more than reasons you gave yourself not to do something.

You have created a powerful “why” not to take action. You bought into your own fear which became your driving force. You created a truth statement in your mind and accepted it. You decided on life strategies to support that truth, and succeeded but with a price tag attached. Your life is merely a reflection of your “truth”.

There is one truth about truth. Even if something is not true but you believe it, it becomes your truth.

The brain loves truth and doesn’t want to deviate from it. It will hold onto truth and find every reason to support it. It will seek evidence to verify it and disregard whatever doesn’t support it. This is why two people can observe the same event and reach totally different conclusions.
Your fear based “truth” is fueled by anticipating negative consequences of having taken action.

The consequence of not taking action seems more acceptable than the stepping into the fear of taking action, except taking action is a massive action with very certain consequences.
To get rid of your fear and abolish excuses you used to prevent yourself from taking action, imagine your life ten years from now doing what you have been doing.

An interesting fact is, if you don’t change something you don’t like, the negative impact of if grows – exponentially. For example, if you have been choosing to remain in a negative relationship, ten years from now the problems you have been experiencing shall expand many- fold. If you have not changed the way you eat, the slight plumpness shall turn into a gargantuan health issue, not to mention the transformation of your body.

If left unchanged, things will change anyway – for the worse. If you imagine what that may look and feel like, you may feel the motivated to make the change now, despite discomfort.

Here are the two main excuses people use not to take action:

1. I am not capable.
Feeling incapable translates into “I don’t have the ability to accomplish the goal, or I am unable to take action”.

You may be feeling incapable because you perceive the task as too difficult. In your mind you don’t have the skills needed to accomplish what you perceive as challenging. Because you expect failure, you don’t even get on that road.
The questions to ask yourself are:

a. What specifically am I finding difficult in this situation?

Here you may discover you did not define the situation, or what needs to be done to accomplish your goal. You may need to define the goal and create a strategy to accomplish your goal. To do this you need to break it down to small and easily manageable tasks. Write it down, starting from the end results. Imagine it having been accomplished.

b. If I were able to solve the problem and find myself on the “other side” how would my life be different? What would have changed for the better? What do I have in that situation that I were not able to have prior to having taken that step? Imagine feelings, things that you see and hear.

Spending time considering the answer to this question, you may suddenly realize your dream is more important than the fear you have been creating.

c. If I were able to solve this problem, what skills would I need to have?
d. What useful skills do I already have that I could use to accomplish my goal?
e. When have I succeeded in the past? What skills did I use to succeed?
f. Do I know someone who succeeded in what I am finding difficult. What specific skills do they have I could model? What questions would I need to ask of them in order to be able to replicate their strategy

2. I am not worthy

Feeling unworthy assumes something better exists but you don’t deserve to have it. This belief translates into “I am not good enough.”

To feel “not good enough” you must have created an internal standard of comparison. In your mind there exists someone whom you perceive to be “better” than you or someone who has the power over you to judge you. That someone is “more powerful and deserving” than you are.

At some point you decided to assign your power to that other “person” or a voice. You became subservient to it and gave your power away.

It is possible you accepted what you were told as a child about yourself. You may have been criticized by well- meaning or not so well – meaning care takers. The truth is, at one point you defined yourself as undeserving. The internal statement is “I am not worthy”.
The questions to ask yourself here are:

a. If I were worthy what would I be allowed to experience in life? What would my life look and feel like?

b. What would I need to believe about myself in order to be able to create that which I want?
c. What do I believe am I worthy of currently?
d. What prevents me from accepting I am already worthy?
e. Imagine 10 new-born babies on a table, wrapped in white linens. Take a look at their faces. Which one is less worthy than the others? Can you choose one?
If you cannot make that choice, go back in your mind to a time you may not remember but know, when you have made that decision about yourself. You chose to reject yourself and lived in that space for a long time. How long are you going to allow yourself live that way?
f. When would now be a good time to make the change?
g. Am I willing to put on a new coat of belief about myself, which says “I am significant and I matter” and experience life from that perspective?

It would be worthy investigating how your current belief came into existence and how you maintained it for so long. Voices of the past can be erased or changed. Images can be replaced and the feelings shifted. Remember, somewhere deep inside there exists the best version of yourself. That person does not feel afraid.

They are filled with potentiality, ability to live the most fulfilling and exciting life, healthy, vibrant and expressed in every aspect of their life. Would you like to set a date with them? What would you like to ask of them? What would you like to say to them?

What is your dream? Is your dream worthy reaching for? Or is your fear more deserving? I leave the answer to you. If you want to learn NLP at a very deep level, check us out at